a good friend to me

As I collected Mac from school yesterday one of his classmates came up to me.

“You know, Mac is a VERY good friend to me”, he told me.

I smiled . “He tells me you are an AWESOME friend to him, you guys are lucky to be in the same class.”

What is most amazing is that this young boy is the same boy who, in week one of Kindergarten last year, proclaimed he “didn’t want to sit near the stinky baby!”

This boy had just repeated Kindy and I knew he was feeling a bit out of sorts, so I made sure I always put Mac (aka stinky baby) on the other side of the group to him.

Because the class was 50% of Mac’s peers from pre-school and daycare noone else would succumb to the ‘stinky baby’ line – Mac was their friend.  It only took a few weeks and he was interacting and enjoying Mac’s company – courtesy of some fine modeling by his classmates.

I never worried about it at the time – because someone told me a long time ago that…

“often your greatest protagonists become your greatest advocates… if you just give them time”.

How true that insight was.

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Filed under first grade here I come, friends, Inclusion... straight up!

4 responses to “a good friend to me

  1. LOVED this post. And the modeling by his classmates line? So very true. So very true.

    Mac is lucky to have such great friends, and they are lucky to have him.

  2. n0thingbuteverything

    i really needed to read this post today. i so admire your sensible reaction to things like this. I’m probably pathetic enough to hold a grudge against a kid for a comment made when they were at kinder. This post has reminded me about the importance of a more common sense reaction – and patience. Thank-you!

  3. Gina

    Hey Di, welcome back.
    While I didn’t worry about the comment I won’t say it didn’t “smart” momentarily at the time. But, as with most of these things, I tried to return to my ‘Inclusion Mantra’ which goes something like this…
    “this isn’t about you… this isn’t about you… it’s all about Mac and he can’t give a crap”

    There are many things that hurt OUR feelings but don’t affect or impact on our kids. There are some that we need to fight for behind the scenes because they do have the potential to hurt them.

    It is about working out what’s what. Sometimes it is easier than others.
    Cheers
    & Thanks Tammy for the great comment.
    Gina

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